Because you only live once. Make it worth it.

If today, I ask you, what is that one thing in life

That one thing right now that you want

That you wish to have

Right at this moment

Be it a fancy car, or better income, or love etc

What would it be?

And how would you go about finding it?

We’re all humans here, fighting for survival

Giving up on something, to achieve something else

We’re always in search for something we lost on our way or something we are working towards

But the question is,how do we get it?

Before anything else, the first and the foremost thing is to ask yourself a basic question:

HOW ARE YOU?

Are you really fine? Are you really doing okay?

Are you happy with that failed marriage of yours? Or that job of yours? Or your salary? Or giving up on your dreams?

We often say we’re fine and we’re okay

But the point is. Whom do we say that to?

The person in front of us?

Or ourselves?

We’ve somewhere taught ourselves how to give up on things

We’ve somewhere told ourselves that we’ll be fine without a few things in life

“My girlfriend won’t understand, it’s okay let it be”

“My boss won’t get it, it’s okay let it be”

We’re just trying to get used to this process of torturing ourselves

Breakthrough!!!!!!

Only when you know you’re fat, you hit the gym

Only when you know you’re lonely, you meet people

Understand what’s inside you

Who else will?

Find a solution

Don’t let yourself give up on things

Don’t let yourself suffer

You have all the solutions

Don’t swipe your internal snooze alarm and ignore what you need and what you desire

Work towards it!

Don’t teach yourself how to stay without something

Rather, prepare yourself to achieve everything that you’ve ever wanted

Human body has the ability to tell us what it needs right at that moment

Hungry? Needs food

Thirsty? Needs water

What about when you feel dissatisfied? That’s a signal too!

Don’t ignore it.

It isn’t the end of everything! It’s the need for you to explore, to live and to discover!

It’s important to feel uncomfortable

It’s important to get out of that comforter early in the morning and take out time for something you love

That is how your soul grows!

You had so many plans

What about that city you always wanted to visit?

That expensive dress that you wanted to buy with your savings?

That company you wanted to intern with?

Those classes that you wanted to join?

That novel that you wanted to write and gift it to your parents?

That figure that you wanted? That house that you wanted to build to make sure your parents settle well before you do?

What happened to those plans?

How far are you from achieving them?

What have you been waiting for?

That right time? That suitable day? That correct moment?

IT IS NOW.

You think you have forever. But you don’t.

You might have a really long time, but that won’t take long to pass.

Do what you always wanted to.

Work hard, get some sleepless nights, early mornings and make it happen!

The idea of forever comes within numbered days.

Don’t waste the time you have now. Don’t waste this opportunity.

Don’t lose out on this moment. These are the small moments that will later create your big one! When you will have all that you’ve ever wanted in your hands and be proud of.

Don’t let this go. To reach that point, that seems far fetched, you need to begin now.

Some determination, some faith in yourself and your dreams and your love to make them turn true. It does sound difficult but not impossible.

Because at the end of your life, more memories and achievements will satisfy you more than the dreams that could’ve been achieved.

BEING GOOD FOR THEM OR BETTER FOR YOURSELF?

As humans all of us somewhere deep down care about this one good side of us that we wish to show to the world, the side that has all the characteristics of being that GOOD PERSON as per everyone. We try to please everybody, make sure everyone around us sees only that one side of us and love us just for that.

So this concept of being a good person… how important do you think is it?

And before anything else, who do you think sets this benchmark that separates bad from good and others?

There is a small difference that I have recently understood with a few experiences in  my life.

A lot of people might talk to me and think of me as a good human, but what makes me happy is to be better human. Better from before, better from who I was, better from when I became helpless and better from when I promised myself to be better.

The whole concept of being good is very NARROW.

There might be many things that we do because it makes us feel like a good person, but is that similar to really being one?

To understand whether being good for them or being better for yourself, is where the actual meaning to this life lies. To understand what matters to you, what makes you happy and what is important to you, is the road to being better. When  we commit mistakes, we promise ourselves to learn from them for our betterment and not for others. For someone, who wishes to be a good person in front of this society, learning from their mistakes, doing what they love and setting priorities is always going to be difficult. But for someone, who wishes to be a better person for themselves, all these things give them happiness contentment.It is important to know who you are, what you lack and where you want to be in order to become better. This society that we live in is nothing but judgmental.We will never be able to satisfy them and fit in their perfectly. But we can surely make a space for us which is built up of things that make us happy and better each day.

So don’t let the idea of being good get in you way of becoming better.

Don’t do this for them, but for you.

Don’t take decisions because the outcome might be in favor of becoming a good person,rather do it because you self interest and your wishes guide you in that direction.

Stop protecting that identity of a good person or else you’ll never become better.

The concept of good person somewhere categorizes you by putting you in the columns of ARE YOU or ARE YOU NOT. It does not give you any space to be yourself, to choose what suits you or what supports your understanding of things.

Start differentiating between what you want to do and what you’re supposed to do and choose where your happiness lies.

Becoming better sets your standards high and makes you work harder to reach up there and set the bar high up again.

Becoming better will be tough. It will take us from downfalls to falling back even stronger. It will take us from being vulnerable to feeling safer. It will take us from being less confident to gaining strength and belief.  What matters more than being stronger, safer and gaining strength is the journey. Our journey of reaching up there and learning so much with every time we thought we will never get back.

This room that we need to give to ourselves is important for our growth and for us to get BETTER and not just good.